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Catholics petition Pope to tell Obama and Congress to defend Marriage, Life, Religion and …?

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A Catholic petition is circulating, asking Pope Francis to tell Barack Obama and Congress to defend Marriage, Life, the free exercise of religion and the poor (from the damaging policies based on “man-made climate change theory.”)

This petition also brings up several additional important points that we highlighted in red.

You can sign the petition HERE.  (We recommend signing it.)

Read the petition letter below from Catholics for America:

Your Holiness,
We are under attack by powerful organizations and politicians in the United States of America. Organizations and politicians who have distorted in public the true meanings of Marriage, Life and Freedom of Religion.

We humbly ask that when you visit President Obama on September 23, 2015 and address the U.S. Congress on September 24, 2015 that you implore each to:

  1. Uphold and recodify in law, Marriage as the union of a man and a woman.
  2. Defend the Life of the unborn child from death and dismemberment, sale of his/her body parts, defend all persons from “legalized” euthanasia and rescue our Catholic, Orthodox, Protestant and Yazidi brothers and sisters from the horrors of ISIS.
  3. Uphold and recodify in law, the Free Exercise of Religion for their citizens.
  4. Defend the Poor from damaging policies based on “man-made climate change theory” that for a decade, have raised the costs on products from automobiles to food to washing machines. These policies have put more products and services even further out of reach of the Poor. These same policies also have made it more difficult or impossible for many who have a higher income to be charitable to the Poor.

Your Holiness, our president and our politicians, (many of them dissenting Catholics on Marriage, Life and the Free Exercise of Religion) need to hear you on these moral issues. Catholics in the United States need and want to hear you and many non-Catholic Christians in the U.S. want to hear you on these issues.

We pray you will address these issues and that this message finds you well and in good health.

Be assured that you are in our prayers.

Supporters of Catholics for America

Click HERE to sign the petition TODAY.

Catholics for America: A new organization to defend Catholic teaching in American society and politics

CFA logo for FBA new organization has been created to engage Catholic laity in the public and political spheres.  Their name is Catholics for America and they introduced themselves today in the social media world.  Be sure to follow Catholics for America on their Facebook page by clicking here and on their Twitter page by clicking here.  You can also Join them and receive emails by clicking here

Catholics for America will need the financial support of lay persons who want our Catholic teachings defended.  To contribute financially to Catholics for America, click here.

Please read and share Catholics for America’s post titled ‘Introducing, Catholics for America’ HERE and below that introduces their efforts to protect and defend Catholic social teaching in the United States:

Today, November 21st, on the Feast of The Presentation of the Blessed Virgin Mary, we are pleased to introduce Catholics for America.

What is Catholics for America?

Catholics for America is a not for profit organization whose mission is, “To educate and encourage Catholics in the United States of America to actively support Catholic social teaching and to protect and defend those teachings in the public sphere.”

Why was Catholics for America founded?

Catholic teaching needs protection and defense by lay persons. The Church calls on the laity to be active in politics and society in the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sections 899 and 2442.  Also, on January 19, 2012, Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI called for the Catholic Laity to become engaged through his address to the Bishops of the U.S.:

*Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) – section 899

899 The initiative of lay Christians is necessary especially when the matter involves discovering or inventing the means for permeating social, political, and economic realities with the demands of Christian doctrine and life. This initiative is a normal element of the life of the Church:

Lay believers are in the front line of Church life; for them the Church is the animating principle of human society. Therefore, they in particular ought to have an ever-clearer consciousness not only of belonging to the Church, but of being the Church, that is to say, the community of the faithful on earth under the leadership of the Pope, the common Head, and of the bishops in communion with him. They are the Church.

*Catechism of the Catholic Church – section 2442

2442 It is not the role of the Pastors of the Church to intervene directly in the political structuring and organization of social life. This task is part of the vocation of the lay faithful, acting on their own initiative with their fellow citizens. Social action can assume various concrete forms. It should always have the common good in view and be in conformity with the message of the Gospel and the teaching of the Church. It is the role of the laity “to animate temporal realities with Christian commitment, by which they show that they are witnesses and agents of peace and justice.”


“… it is imperative that the entire Catholic community in the United States come to realize the grave threats to the Church’s public moral witness presented by a radical secularism which finds increasing expression in the political and cultural spheres. The seriousness of these threats needs to be clearly appreciated at every level of ecclesial life. Of particular concern are certain attempts being made to limit that most cherished of American freedoms, the freedom of religion… Here once more we see the need for an engaged, articulate and well-formed CATHOLIC LAITY endowed with a strong critical sense vis-à-vis the dominant culture and with the courage to counter a reductive secularism which would delegitimize the Church’s participation in public debate about the issues which are determining the FUTURE OF AMERICAN SOCIETY.”

Catholics for America will help the laity to engage in the public sphere on moral issues central to our faith like; Life, Marriage, Poverty, Labor and Religious Freedom to name a few.

How can you help Catholics for America?

  • Tell your friends about Catholics for America by using the social media sources you use like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and YouTube.
  • Donate $5 or an amount you can afford to the efforts of Catholics for America.
  • Join Catholics for America by signing up for our emails

Please include us in your prayers.

We pray that the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit bless our work.

Frame the Truth and Stay on Message: Please Just Say “Marriage”

Lay Catholics logoBy Kim Lehman

Do you believe that marriage is, and only can be, between a man and a woman? Do you believe it is the bedrock of society? Finally, do you believe that Nature’s God instituted marriage in the beginning? If you said yes to all of these questions, this article is being written for you. Let me explain. Words matter and how you frame a message matters. In fact, whoever defines the language controls the message and frames it in their favor. This is why I am making the case that if you believe the above statement, then you can never use the word “gay” before the word “marriage.” If you do not believe me, then you should study the word battles in the abortion issue. It was through my work with the Right to Life in Iowa that I learned these important lessons of language—first being that you never repeat your opposition’s message or use “their” language. Please read on before you write again to defend marriage.

Again, you never repeat your opposition’s message in order to give your rebuttal. Don’t give them free space on your page. This is by far the biggest error of the right. The opposition said what they said to persuade, and they carefully crafted their words. They have the disadvantage since they must “change” culture, so they are not going to use your words. Christians and pro-life people react with very little strategy when they publish an article. To their credit they want to defend truth and are willing to step out of their comfort zone to speak up—great, and thank you. With that said, to their fault, they are not paying attention to how to fight the battle with words. Consider why the liberal papers flip pro-lifers’ words from “pro-life” to “anti-choice”. This is not an accident and has a definite motive behind it. They want their readers to view pro-life people as an “anti” kind of people, which has the subliminal effect of making the reader want to disassociate with an “anti” group, as opposed to reporting us as “pro” life, which would have a drawing effect. Take also into consideration the abortion industry’s use of “pro-choice” instead of “anti-life”. Why do you think the largest abortion group in the United States call themselves Planned Parenthood instead of Abortions Aplenty? The answer is obvious; they do not want people to view them as advancing more abortion. Words really, really, really matter when engaging in social issues.

Let this be the rule of thumb when you want to engage in the battle of words:

Whoever defines the word, frames the issue in their favor. So long as you use their language, you have yielded and helped them without even knowing it.

My hope is that my friends in this battle for marriage will be persuaded to stop using the opposition’s language. Make no mistake; marriage has been under attack for a long time. You do not have to look far to realize that the younger generation places very little value in the institution. Why is it under attack? I am convinced that marriage is a reflection of the triune God, and a picture of Christ’s relationship with the church, with Him as the bridegroom and us as His bride. So in fact, this is far more than what it appears. Let’s face it; God instituted marriage as his plan to populate the earth by creating each new generation and as a reflection of his love. Marriage is about a life-long commitment that includes bringing children into the world. If a couple is unable to have children, they can either adopt or serve mankind in another way. The order of society should still maintain a mother and a father uniting to pro-create and raise children. This is so obvious that it is a wonderment that so many people are confused today. However, it’s not the first time in history that people have lost their way on this issue. The question is: how did we get here? I believe a good place to start in understanding how America fell so fast as to devalue marriage can be found in Humanae Vitae, written by Pope Paul VI.

I contend that the other side has done a good job dismantling marriage by using propaganda. They took advantage of the fact that most people are lazy thinkers and do not like to be controversial. Reframing the language began with a simple word–“gay”, which at one time meant “happy” or “joyful”, yet now it means someone who has sex with the same gender. Not too long ago this sexual act was called perversion. In fact, because of this perversion God’s judgment fell on Sodom and Gomorrah, and men who engaged in this sexual act were thereafter referred to as Sodomites. Like all sins that lead to eternal death, it should be treated for what it is–sin that can be forgiven. Let’s face it, all of us are sinners and need to repent to be restored to God. However, it is evil to say that a sin is no longer a sin. In the case of sexual perversion, many now say that people are born this way. We are all born with a sinful nature—that is, a desire to sin. Not only is everyone born bent to sin, but we are all born with a sexual drive. The reality is, as sinners, we are all given the choice to act upon all types of sinful inclinations or to reject them to do what is right. No one is without sin. Make no mistake—there is no one without excuse. Nature bears witness to the truth. It is black and white. The problem today is that people are buying into the lie that we can’t help ourselves and therefore it must be okay. It is not okay and we must speak the truth, with love and with the correct words.

So let’s get back to what language to use or not to use in defending marriage. You must ask yourself again whether or not you truly believe that marriage is, and can only be, between a man and a woman. If so, then we can say with confidence there is only one kind of marriage. Right? Try not to contradict yourself by putting the word “gay or homosexual” with the word marriage. If it can’t be and doesn’t exist then do not speak it into existence. If you choose to use their language, they will use it against you. How? Once you allow them to create a new kind of marriage by using their language, all they have to do is say you are discriminating against “blank-marriage.” See how subtle, and yet so simple. You become your own worst enemy. This information is probably a decade late, but I’m hopeful that at least some will catch on.

For those of you who have the habit of using their language instead of saying “marriage”, don’t be undisciplined or lazy and think that what I just said doesn’t matter, for not only does it matter, it matters a lot. You must decide what you believe and then speak the words. Marriage stands alone for it is what it is. Do not help your opposition any longer by repeating “their message.” Please! Discipline yourself and stay on message.

If you were to ask me how I say it, I use these words:

  • Defend marriage (number one choice to say over and over again)
  • I encourage you to stop the destruction of marriage
  • I support marriage
  • Please support marriage with me
  • Marriage is a blessing
  • Marriage is under attack
  • Rebuild marriage for the sake of our children
  • Marriage has always been male and female, and I might add, will always be and cannot be anything but one man and one woman
  • We must not let marriage be dismantled
  • Encourage our children to marry
  • Society didn’t create marriage and therefore has no power to redefine it

Never call it “traditional Marriage” for that implies there is more then one kind of marriage (very subtle.) You will notice that your opposition will never say they are destroying marriage or dismantling it. They are very disciplined to use their own language and compel you to use it in rebuttal.

The objective for both sides is to frame the message to get agreement:

  • If you ask people if they support marriage, they will say yes
  • If you ask them if they want to destroy marriage, they will say no
  • If you ask them if society should help rebuild marriages in the US for the sake of our children, they will say yes
  • If you ask people if they want to protect marriage, they will say yes

Remember to frame the issue or your message in a way that the public will support. So stay on message and love all people, and for the sake of our loving God, never agree with a lie by repeating the lie in order to rebut it. Simply state your message. Why give them free advertising? Frame the truth and stay on message.

Best wishes,
Your friend in truth with love,
Kim Lehman, IA


Obama vs. Catholicism on Same-Sex Marriage: Catechism 2357-60 and Pius XI’s “On Christian Marriage”

Barack Obama supports so-called, same-sex marriage.  This is in direct opposition to Catholic teaching on the sacrament of marriage.  Catholics must defend marriage and will have a chance on November 6, 2012 at the ballot box in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota and Washington.  President Obama has put himself on the ballot with this issue as well.
This is the story from the May 10, 2012 White House Blog about President Obama’s support of so-called, same-sex marriage.  It is titled, President Obama supports Same-Sex Marriage (click here for the White House Blog story)  Below is an excerpt from the story:
“Yesterday, during an interview with ABC News, President Obama said, “I think same-sex couples should be able to get married.””
Here is his exclusive interview to ABC about his support for Same-Sex marriage:
Marriage is a sacrament.  One of the Seven Sacraments.  Marriage must be defended by Catholics.
Below is Catholic teaching on homosexuality and the sacrament of marriage in the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC):
CCC 2357     “Under no circumstances can they (homosexual acts) be approved.”
CCC 2358     “They (homosexual persons) must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity…”
CCC 2359     “Homosexual persons are called to chastity… they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.”
CCC 2360     “Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman.  In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion.  Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.”
Also, see Pope Pius XI’s Encyclical titled Casti Connubii (On Christian Marriage) Paragraphs 48 & 49, where he warns us about those who try to degrade marriage:
48.    “And since, in order that the deceits of the enemy may be avoided, it is necessary first of all that they be laid bare; since much is to be gained by denouncing these fallacies for the sake of the unwary, even though We prefer not to name these iniquities “as becometh saints,”[44] yet for the welfare of souls We cannot remain altogether silent.”
49.    “To begin at the very source of these evils, THEIR basic principle lies in this, that matrimony is repeatedly declared to be not instituted by the Author of nature nor raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a true sacrament, but invented by man. Some confidently assert that they have found no evidence of the existence of matrimony in nature or in her laws, but regard it merely as the means of producing life and of gratifying in one way or another a vehement impulse; on the other hand, others recognize that certain beginnings or, as it were, seeds of true wedlock are found in the nature of man since, unless men were bound together by some form of permanent tie, the dignity of husband and wife or the natural end of propagating and rearing the offspring would not receive satisfactory provision. At the same time they maintain that in all beyond this germinal idea matrimony, through various concurrent causes, is invented solely by the mind of man, established solely by his will.”

O Holy Spirit, strengthen us to defend all that is holy.

Peter L. Hodges Sr.

Chick-fil-A Shares Marriage and Family Values with Catholicism. Show your Support August 1st and Beyond

Dan Cathy, president of Chick-fil-A was interviewed by Biblical Recorder newspaper in an article published July 2012.  See an excerpt below:
Some have opposed the company’s support of the traditional family. “Well, guilty as charged,” said Cathy when asked about the company’s position.  “We are very much supportive of the family — the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that.”  “We operate as a family business … our restaurants are typically led by families; some are single. We want to do anything we possibly can to strengthen families. We are very much committed to that,” Cathy emphasized.  “We intend to stay the course,” he said. “We know that it might not be popular with everyone, but thank the Lord, we live in a country where we can share our values and operate on biblical principles.”

For these good, Christian and truthful comments, Chick-fil-A is being ridiculed by foolish proponents of same-sex marriage and even some foolish mayors who are claiming bigotry.  Some of those who have joined in the ridicule claim to be Catholic.

Well, let’s see who is compatible with Catholicism on this one.  See excerpts below from the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sections 2260 and 2261:

CCC 2260     Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.

CCC 2261     “Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death.”

Well, the incompatibility lies with the proponents of same-sex marriage.  Unfortunately, they want to fight and ridicule.  Many of them refuse to believe that we as Catholics and Christians accept homosexual persons with respect, compassion and sensitivity.  However, we will not accept a validation of the homosexual act or a contrivance of marriage rights forced on our Church or society.

Support a Chick-fil-A restaurant near you on Wednesday August 1st and beyond.  Pray for Dan Cathy and his employees.

O Holy Spirit, strengthen us to defend all that is holy.

Peter L. Hodges Sr.